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The Relationship Between Men and Women of
Islam
Let us consider
some aspects of the Islamic view of the relationship between men
and women.
In its view
of family, Islam recognizes the woman as the mother, the man as
the father. It is a partnership in which the man and woman share
equivalent responsibilities and are entitled to equivalent rights.
Islam enjoins
Muslims to seek knowledge, and it makes no distinction between men
and women. Fourteen centuries ago, Muhammad (peace and blessings
be upon him) said: “The pursuit of knowledge is incumbent
on every Muslim, male and female.” This means that women have
the same right to education as men.
They are entitled
to the freedom of expression as much as men are. Their opinions
are taken into consideration and cannot be disregarded. It is reported
in the Qur’an and history that women not only expressed their
opinions freely but also argued and participated in serious discussions
with the Prophet himself as well as with other Muslim leaders (Qur’an,
58:1-4; 60:10-12).
In the Prophet’s
time, women participated in public life, especially in times of
emergencies. Women used to accompany the Muslim armies engaged in
battles to nurse the wounded, prepare supplies, and serve the warriors,
and so on. They were not shut behind iron bars or considered worthless
“creatures without souls”, as was supposed by certain
Christian theologians of Medieval times.
Women participated
in public life in the Prophet’s time
Islam grants
women equal rights to buy, own, or sell property independently in
their own right. Their life, their property, and their honor are
as sacred as those of men. If they commit any offense, their penalty
is neither more nor less than that of men in a similar case. If
they are wronged or harmed, they get due compensation equal to what
men in their position would get (Qur’an 2:178; 4:45 , 92-93).
Islam allows
a share of inheritance to women as to men. Before Islam, women were
not only deprived of that share but were themselves considered as
property to be inherited by men. Whether a woman is a wife or a
mother, a sister or a daughter, she receives a certain share of
the deceased relative's property, a share that depends on her degree
of relationship to the deceased and the number of heirs. This share
is hers, and no one can take it away or disinherit her.
It should be
noted here that the normal share for a woman is half of that of
a man in a similar position. This may seem unfair at first glance,
but consider the fact that Islam does not lay any financial burden
on a woman such as it lays on a man. For example in a family, the
duty of providing for the whole family is on the father (or husband).
It is never
the responsibility of a woman to find the means to provide for herself
or her children. Even if she is not a mother or wife, her maintenance
is the duty of the men related to her according to the closeness
of their relation to her. So a wife who inherits a share of her
father’s wealth need not spend any money for her husband,
for her children or for her own expenses. If she so chooses, she
can donate her share to charity, for instance. That is her special
privilege.
For this reason,
no injustice is done to women here.
Islam also gives
a woman the right to receive a dower, called mahr, at the time of
marriage. This mahr is a gift of money or property that the bridegroom
must give to the bride, not her family. This is a right of the woman,
while she is entitled to complete provision and total maintenance
by the husband. She does not have to work or share with her husband
the family expenses, as mentioned before. She is free to retain,
after marriage, whatever she possessed before it, and the husband
has no right whatever to any of her belongings. As a daughter or
sister, she is entitled to security and provision by the father
and brother respectively.
By giving women
their rights, Islam makes it clear that women are not slaves to
men, nor do they need to play men’s roles in life to be recognized
as humans or gain respect. In Islam, man and woman are intended
to complement each other and to cooperate with, not compete against
each other.